An it’s-not-in-my-job-description attitude will inevitably lead to small paychecks and poor career prospects, says Tom Corley, a certified financial planner and author of Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals. “Nothing says you’re worth it like the high quality of your work,” says Karen Elizaga, an executive coach and author of Find Your Sweet Spot: A Guide to Personal and Professional Excellence .
Don’t define who you are, proclaim it.
Somebody needs to be in charge of reminding/warning me when a full moon is near, cuz I’m all kinds of crazy most every time. It annoying (and sometimes embarrassing).
You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent.
You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.
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REALITY STATEMENTS FOR INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
1. It is OK to want or need something from someone else.
2. I have a choice to ask someone for what I want or need.
3. I can stand it if I don’t get what I want or need.
4. The fact that someone says no to my request doesn’t mean I should not have asked in the first place.
5. If I didn’t get my objectives, that doesn’t meant I didn’t go about it in a skillful way.
6. Standing up for myself over “small” things can be just as important as “big” things are to others.
7. I can insist upon my rights and still be a good person.
8. I sometimes have a right to assert myself, even though I may inconvenience others.
9. The fact that other people might not be assertive doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t be.
10. I can understand and validate another person, and still ask for what I want.
11. There is no law that says other people’s opinions are more valid than mine.
12. I may want to please people I care about, but I don’t have to please them all the time.
13. Giving, giving, giving is not the be-all of life. I am an important person in this world, too.
14. If I refuse to do a favor for people, that doesn’t mean I don’t like them. They will probably understand that, too.
15. I am under no obligation to say yes to people simply because they ask a favor of me.
16. The fact that I say no to someone does not make me a selfish person.
17. If I say no to people and they get angry, that does not mean that I should have said yes.
18. I can still feel good about myself, even though someone else is annoyed with me..
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