Happy Caturday
And Happy Five Year Anniversary to Jack .. .. .. thank you for giving me the best five years of my life. I can’t wait for the rest of our lives together.
I Love You!!
A Promise
I will:
Hold you in the middle of the night when you are sleeping, when you do not know I am touching you. Reach out for your hand while you are driving, slide my hand against the inside of your thigh when you make a left turn. Turn on a slow song and dance with you, my lips on your neck as the song quietly ends. Leave you notes in a shirt pocket when I am away on a business trip, and it will say You look great today in my messy handwriting. Slip on the red lace underwear that you thought I didn’t buy, stand in the doorway of the bedroom until you look up to see that is all I am wearing. Let you hold me down when I come, let you do it again and again until I melt into the sheets. Remember your favorite beers, brands of chips and keep them in the cupboard for when you are hungry. Rub your back at night, knead your tired muscles in my tiny palms until they disappear under my fingers. Let you have the big piece, the bigger half, the extra pillows, the first shower, the window seat. Tell you I love you as I kiss your eyebrows, your chin, the space behind your ears.
I promise I will, if you’ll just be mine—just be mine for awhile.
I promise
On Love
An anonymous follower emailed me this this morning. Well, anonymous to you. I think she makes some great points so wanted to share to create a dialogue. To who wrote this, thank you for sharing. Favorite line. ”Until it’s right, it’s wrong”. Good words.
- Angry
I wanted to share this because I think it’s something a lot of dating books and people do not necessarily say. The love of your life is not going to come at a set age, or time. You can say you want to be married by 28 or 30 or whatever, but if you don’t meet the right person you are either going to find yourself single or worse, trying to marry somebody that might not be right. Divorce rates sky rocket in our country not because love is broken, or people are bad. It has nothing to do with men wanting to sow their oats, or women wanting to trade up, or any of the other stereotypes. It’s because everybody’s trying to get it for the sake of having it or doing it because they feel they are supposed to along some kind of timeline, to make someone they’re with happy, etc. It is not the kind of thing you want to rush. If you’re not finding ‘the one’ or you’re finding plenty of people to date or short term relationships, it is likely that you need to grow somewhere to get and create the relationship you want. It does happen right away for some people, and lasts forever. For most of us, it’s a series of crash tests intended to bring us a little closer to who we need to be in order to get the relationship we want. Note that says who we need to be — it has nothing to do with who the other person is. At least, not right out of the gate. It also isn’t about a 20 point check list of what someone is about — but everything about how you recognize love, how you need to be shown love, and whether or not you can recognize the unique way someone gives and receives it, and ultimately if either you can be satisfied with that or not. When someone loves you, and when it is right, there is no things you need to say or do. Having witty answers about who you are, trying to be interesting on purpose, etc is not going to land you the person who will love you for who you are. If you’re boring, so what. There is a person for you out there. Be yourself. Because any effort to say or do the right things is an act, and acts are very hard to keep up. Avoid it. Be yourself and have the confidence and trust that someone on the other side of the equation is going to love you just as you are.
When you love someone, you will know. It is not a feeling. At all. It can bring some great feelings. But it’s an act. It’s an act you want to give that person no matter what. It’s an act that makes you accept and work around their flaws, it’s an act that makes you be considerate of them, remembering the little things that make him or her happy. We get way too caught up in the feeling of love, and that is a big reason why so many people think they ‘love’ someone when they really do not. When it is love, and it is mutual and right between the two people, it is like nothing you have or will ever experience in your life. It is the same kind of love you have for a family member, or a friend, only richer and more intimate. It is a cousin to the love you might have for your child. It’s a love that makes that person beautiful to you no matter what they are in, how they are, what is going on. You will love that person whether they are well rounded and cultured and traveled, you will love them and want to see everything about them, experience them to the fullest extent. You will walk to the ends for this person. And vice versa.
So put away the things you think you need to be. It isn’t about whether or not you order a sandwich or a salad. Ask yourself if you’ve got issues within yourself preventing the love that you want — that is what you need to work on, not making sure you did not answer his or her text quickly so you don’t seem to eager, or any of that other nonsense advice. And when somebody loves you, you will know. You’ll know because it will be effortless. Not just on the first date or the second date or the 100th, but for years and years. If you find yourself constantly angry, constantly citing what is wrong with someone you are with, ask yourself if you are just a chronic complainer, or if this person is truly what you want.
As a good friend said once, until it’s right, it’s wrong. Every time you meet someone, don’t use the filter to figure out how they make you feel because feelings fail. Ask your gut instinct: Is this person someone I can date, or is this somebody who I could have a relationship with? And take your time. Get to know him or her. It’s a marathon not a sprint. It’s an act not a feeling. It’s natural and nothing you are or aren’t is going to make it happen or not, with exception to your needing to heal somewhere that’s preventing love from happening in your life. That’s love.
- An anonymous follower
I have no idea who these people are.
But I love this picture and can only hope that someday I find someone who feels this way about me.
Ditto
This excites me. This makes me happy. I live for good conversation, but when you listen to someone talk about something they are passionate about, you learn, you live, and you allow them to fill you up with their own light.
Truth
And then I wonder, does anyone truly love me? Because how can they when they don’t even really know me, the ‘real’ me?
I fell hard for her. Metaphorically speaking it was like walking along a road, not seeing the string pulled across it and tripping. Before realizing what had happened I was on my way down, smashing face first into the concrete. There was loud screaming, broken bones and blood everywhere. People were panicking, children were screaming. It was messy. It was mayhem. You get the picture.
What I’m describing is not some drunken episode at 3 am on a Sunday morning after too much vodka but rather the way she appeared into my life. I was just walking along my chosen road, unaware, ignorant and clueless. No concerns or expectations. Then she tripped me, and I went down. It was the best fall I’ve ever taken.
I realize this is not the most romantic description of the beginning of a love between two people but considering the force with which she came into my life and the effect she has had on me ever since I can’t really detail it in any other way. It was fast and wild. It was sexy and passionate. It was full of love and desire. It still is every single day. I often think back to the beginning and how it has all unfolded. I didn’t expect it and I could never have predicted it. I guess sometimes you just have to let yourself fall!
I love this : )
Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings with.
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| — | Paulo Coelho (via couture-kitty) |
I love this for so many reasons. It sounds cold at first glance, but I don’t read it that way at all. I think it’s something that women should be taught from the time they’re little girls rather than the fairy tale “Prince Charming” crap we regurgitate and force down their throats. The truth is you don’t need someone to save you…no one can build a world for you to be happy in except for YOU.
Instead of worrying about finding your soul mate, go out and find your passion. Get an education or say to hell with school and gain some life experience. Get a job you hate then quit it, take 15 more jobs you hate and leave them all until you find the one that makes you set your alarm clock an hour early because you can’t wait to go in. Travel. Try new things. Get hurt and then pick yourself up again. Make mistakes and learn from them. Discover your flaws and find a way to turn them into strengths. Tell the truth, even if it could cost you everything. Ask for and give forgiveness. Build a circle of friends you can lean on and trust but also spend an uncomfortable period of time alone…enough so that you’re forced to hear your own heart without the distraction and influence of other people. Build the world you want to exist in first, then find someone to join you there.
This is AMAZING
Especially the words under the picture
